Do you want to know the secret to happiness? The answer to the question that most people spend their lives trying in vain to find? The way to find happiness….
As a child most of us were probably really happy and if you think back to your childhood now it’s probably filled my memories of the summer holidays playing football, rugby or tennis (whilst Wimbledon was on the telly anyway), going for long bike rides where you got lost along the way but managed to find your way home or being at school and hanging out with your mates.
When we get older we seem to lose this ability to happy most of the time and we frantically search for ways to get it back. We work long hours, try to increase our salaries to buy new cars, plasma TVs, and exotic holidays but there’s always something else that we want to have. We look for happiness in other ways to, we compare ourselves against our friends and peers, and we measure our success and happiness by putting ourselves up against other people. We expect that if we have more than they do then we will be happier.
And most of us are sat there with a part of us that still isn’t happy. Do you want to know the answer?
The answer to making yourself happy is to do the things that make you happy.
Sound obvious? Well it is but when was the last time that you spent any time thinking about and writing down the things that make you really happy? I can guarantee you that if you do this, make a list of things that make you happy and commit some time each week to doing these things you will be a shed load happier.
For me its playing football, going for hour-long runs and listening to songs on my I-pod. Doing these 3 things during the week gives me a sense of happiness that comes from inside that the latest 50 inch plasma TV or a new Audi A5 in the long run can’t.
Now I’m not saying that you should forgo all your material possessions, I’m not a pseudo-Buddhist who owns nothing. I have a 4 bedroom house in a nice neighbourhood and a car that gets me from A to B in comfort, I’m pleased that I can provide them for me and my family. But do they make me content? No. I get that from the things that make me happy.